DEAR HARRIETTE: I was so engaged in the political theater of our world that I was overwhelmed. Since January, I haven’t paid this much attention.
I know this is not right and I see the impact on my children. They were used to my husband and I debating the actions of the former president or the status of the United States Supreme Court. We got angry with Roe v. Wade, but we haven’t been involved much.
I want my children to be part of the political process. How can we regain our interest?
Political exhaustion
Dear Political Wear: Many people have been worn down by the intensity of politics in recent years, regardless of their political affiliation. But the beauty and gift of America is that we have the right to speak and participate in the political system. This is not true in some parts of the world.
Get creative to get back in the game. You may want to look at international headlines and encourage your children to learn about governments in other parts of the world. Compare their rights with ours. Look at the problems we share with other countries and the ones that are different.
Pay attention locally. Invite your children to accompany you to town hall meetings and other local political events so they can learn about how government works where you live. Research local and national organizations that align with your values and consider joining them. No need to be glued to the television, agonizing over the daily headlines. get involved
DEAR HARRIETTE: My young adult son finally moved out of my house this summer. He finished college a few years ago and is just getting back on his feet with a job. It seems that his life is off to a good start.
The problem I have is that he left his room a mess. Not only is it untidy, but he left behind all sorts of things, from old CDs to clothes, books and other random things.
I don’t want to have to keep his door closed. I actually want to turn her room into a guest room.
He will be allowed to stay if he spends the night, but he still lives in our village, so it is unlikely.
I know he’ll be mad if I leave his stuff, but something has to give. How do I get it to work?
Clean it up
Dear, clean it up: Give your child a deadline to come clean his room and be clear about it.
Tell him you’re about to turn his room into a guest room. Make sure she knows she can use it when she visits, but it won’t be hers anymore. Write down the date after which you will clean their room. Tell her the date and send her an email or text so she’s clear about your plan.
Ask him to come and help you remove the contents of the room. Please note that anything you do not collect will be donated or rejected.
A week before the date, remind your child of your plan to empty the room. Ask him to help you. It filled the room. You should not be responsible for emptying it yourself. If it doesn’t show up, ask for help and get rid of the objects.
Harriette Cole is a stylist and founder of DREAMLEAPERS, an initiative to help people access and activate their dreams. Questions may be sent to askharriette@harriettecole.com or/or Andrews McMeel Syndication, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas City, MO 64106.
